The Last Month Theory

                

Time is sliding out from your hand like sand, my friend. It feels like just a moment before when we entered a new year, and now here we are—already at the last month.

Why Finishing the last chapter matters?

Before opening a new chapter, it's important to finish the last one. According to me, before starting a new year, it is very important to give a beautiful end to the past year.

Every year fills you with different kinds of experiences. You may have seen victories and failures, fallen in love, felt heartbreaks, made new connections, or lost someone close to you. Life is all about experiencing, learning, enjoying, and growing.

This year would also have given you so many experiences. But December—being the last month—is extremely important. I call it the “Concluding Month.”
It means that this month is for concluding your whole year and ending all the chapters of this year within this year itself. Because I think as long as the vessel contains leftovers, their taste will remain even after pouring hundreds of tasty new dishes into it.

How Do You Figure Out What to Conclude?

A question might be rising in your mind: How do I figure out what to end or conclude?

It’s very simple, my friend. To conclude doesn’t mean you have to make conclusions for every experience. You have to conclude those things from which a voice is coming from your heart—the things stuck inside your mind. So think and start searching for them.

It might be anything:

• a promise to someone,

• a planned trip with your friends that is still pending,

• a fight with someone close,

• an unfinished goal,

• or a plan you made at the start of the year.

Just figure them out.

After Realizing, Take Action

Once you figure it out, the next step is action. Thoughts are worthless without steps.

Go on that trip with your friends before the year ends. Nobody knows where life will take us in the new year. Maybe you won’t be able to meet again. There’s a beautiful theory called “The Last Meeting Theory.” I will write about it someday too.

It says we don’t know when we are meeting someone for the last time. And often, before life separates you, it brings you so close that you feel as if you’ve never seen each other this way before. The very next moment, you don’t know whether you will see each other again or not.

That’s why I’m saying—complete your plans and promises with your loved ones before the year ends.

Fix What Needs to Be Fixed

If someone is upset with you, hurt because of you, or your heart genuinely knows that you made a mistake—go and correct it.

• Apologize

• Improve your relationships

• Understand and forgive

• Don’t start the new year with old burdens

Let go of the person who is not healthy for you. Let the fake ones fly away. Let the wrong ones leave. Your mental health, your growth, and your peace are more important than the presence of those people.

Sometimes, we even have to let go of someone who meant a lot—not because they were hurtful, but because life is taking them away. People stay with us only till their role in our life ends. Some bonds become too difficult to carry on.

The Power of Gratitude

Be grateful and thankful to the people who helped in making you a better version of yourself. Go and thank them before the year ends. Thank even those who helped you in their bare minimum way.

Always be thankful for life. Gratitude keeps you humble, kind, and grounded.

Because you can’t start a new journey with past burdens.

The Beauty of December

There is another level of beauty in this month. It helps us learn, accept, let go, and grow from the experiences of the whole year. Let go of all the negativity. Take all the positivity.

Start your new chapter with:

• full energy

• new hopes

• new dreams

• a fresh mind

Forget the past. Live in the moment. Enjoy the beautiful journey of life.

Personal Note

I have felt all these things in my life too. I made these mistakes myself, which always resulted in a pressure-filled start to the new year. Honestly, I never felt anything special about “New Year” until I realized all this and started applying it in my life.

Now my new year truly feels like a New Year—full of joy, dreams, energy, and positivity. I am writing all this not because I am a philosopher, but because I have made these mistakes and felt how they feel.

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          ENTER THE NEW YEAR WITH A NEW MINDSET, NOT PRESSURE

Peace Begins With Acceptance

Acceptance

"Acceptance" is a very small word with the deepest meaning. If someone understands it, the whole way of living life would change.

You know the main reason why we have lost our inner spark nowadays? Because we expect a lot. We want to be the controller of things which are not even in our hands, and this always results in disappointments and heartbreaks.

Start learning to accept things. It’s not every time needed to fight back for what you have imagined or how you think it will go. Life is totally unpredictable; not everything can be according to our wish.

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Why We Need to Accept Things

As in my older blog, I had stated "to not complicate life."
To achieve that, first of all we should learn how to start accepting.

To learn the art of acceptance, first we should know how to figure out things which are not under our control and which are. Because I think we should accept only those things which are not in our hands; otherwise accepting everything that could be changed by our efforts would be equal to the biggest defeat of us.

We can understand it by a very famous statement:
"It's not your fault that you were born poor, but if you die poor, it's your fault."

It's true—getting birth in a poor family was not in our hands, but it’s our choice whether we want to change that by our hard work or not.
So like this, we should learn to figure out things which are in our hands, which can be changed, and which can't.

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Acceptance in Different Situations

Acceptance can be applied in various parts of our life differently.

Sometimes we have to accept and let someone go who’s not meant for us.
Sometimes we have to accept and stay.
Sometimes we have to accept our loved one’s death.
Sometimes we have to accept our defeat to prepare more.

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What Life Taught Me

I am saying all these because life has taught me.

From my childhood since now mostly i had felt that some of my friends whom I assumed as my closest one had a completely different way of reciprocating, but I was unable to understand that. Mostly I used to overthink for what I had done for them and how they reciprocated, which never returned the same way as I did.

We all do this kind of mistake—thinking relations as a business of efforts and priorities. This habit of mine was slowly hollowed my bonds.

I used to argue  to let them know how I felt, but indirectly I wanted them to treat me the way I wanted, not the way they wanted. It felt like I forced them  to do so, whereas friendship is a feeling, not a business of efforts. In friendship, we do that much which comes from our heart, not our mind.

Once I realized all this, I felt how dumb  was I. After the day of realization and acceptance, I had seen my  friendship getting stronger you can take it as a kind of maturity for accepting the people for how they are , as my own expectations were the main cause of all the problems.

It’s not necessary that the person I consider a very good friend also considers me the same. We can't force someone to treat us the same way we treat them.

So sometimes we have to accept such things and stay.
But if staying is hurting you and you feel like a bondage in the relation, it means you have to accept that it’s not mandatory that the person you want also wants you.

So you have to let them go. Those who are not meant for you will leave, and the right one will definitely come into your life when he is meant to enter your life by fate.

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Accepting Yourself

The most important teaching of acceptance is that first of all you should accept yourself with all your qualities and flaws. Love yourself and try to bring improvements in yourself.

I am saying this because every person around us has a different mindset. Everyone has a different way to see this world and different perspectives towards you:

For someone you are good, for someone you are bad.
For someone you are smart, for someone you are dumb.
For someone you are good-looking, for someone ugly.
For someone you are kind, for someone you are harsh.

We can't change everyone’s perspective towards us. The thing that matters is how we feel about ourselves and how we accept ourselves.

We mostly lack in accepting ourselves the way we are and start hating ourselves. Don’t be a hater of yourself—be a lover and start bringing improvements.

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The Magic of Acceptance

Start accepting and leave such things on their condition which can't be changed. Start believing in the game of GOD and I guarantee you, once you start learning the art of acceptance, you will see magic in your life.

Learn to accept things. Useless stress and overthinking will stop, your health will improve, and everything will start falling into place.

“Acceptance is not giving up—it is choosing peace over unnecessary battles.”

Don’t Overthink the Journey, Learn to Travel Light

Life is like a train journey. Each coach represents a different phase of our lives, from birth to death. Along the way, we see different views from the window—some beautiful, some unpleasant. These views reflect the highs and lows we experience in life. We are the travelers, each with our own story, experiences, and purpose. Regardless of how the journey unfolds, we must learn to enjoy it. In the end, the biggest regret is realizing we wasted it by dwelling only on discomfort or the negative views outside. I have struggled with this too. I often made my life more complicated than it needed to be—just like many of us do. During high school, before exams, I would panic at the thought of the entire syllabus. Out of fear, I would study randomly, without any structure. Hours would slip by, but I wasn't productive. I messed everything up by focusing only on the problem instead of finding solutions. Each time, I ended up crying in front of my mother. She would simplify everything I had complicated. She laid out a structured schedule for me, broke it into manageable steps, and suddenly, everything became easier. This isn’t just about schoolwork. It’s about life. We make our problems feel heavier by overthinking and dwelling on the negative. Life will never be perfectly smooth. And honestly, if it were, what fun would that be? Life is all about experiences, challenges, and learning. I once read, “If you can write your problem, it is already partially solved.” This is spot on. Before tackling a problem, first understand what it really is. We should be responsive, not reactive. This phrase carries a strong message. Reactive means responding instantly from a place of fear, stress, or emotion. That was me in high school. As soon as I saw a long syllabus, I panicked and studied without a plan, just trying to “finish” rather than understand. Responsive means taking a moment to pause, think, analyze, and then act. Like my mother, she didn’t panic. She calmly assessed the situation, analyzed it, and worked through it step by step. This difference can change your life. If you master this skill, you will save: - your energy - your peace of mind - your relationships Today, we harm our relationships by reacting instantly to others’ words or actions. We grow impatient due to unhealthy lifestyles and restless minds. Before you react, ask yourself, “Who is this person to me? Are they worth this reaction?” You will see the magic in your connections. Don’t complicate your life unnecessarily. Life hasn’t thrown any problem at you that is bigger than your ability. You are making it feel bigger by overthinking. If something isn’t meant for you, accept it and let it go. In my upcoming blogs, I will discuss the art of acceptance and how it brings peace. Join me on this journey.

You are the only one with you till end.

“When we were born, we cried while the world celebrated. We should strive to live in a way that, when we die, the world mourns while we rejoice.”  

This powerful statement, shared with Robin Sharma by his father, invites us to deeply reflect on life, purpose, and how we choose to live.  

It quietly poses a tough question:  

Are we truly living, or just passing time?  

Will our lives matter to anyone?  

Will our presence, or absence, make a difference?  

In today’s world, we keep scrolling, consuming random content, imagining various scenarios, and drifting into digital lives. We act like living zombies, glued to our screens, forgetting the most important truth:  

“Who are we?”  

We have lost connection with ourselves and even with those closest to us. We either chase after responsibilities or waste precious hours without intent. In this rush, we overlook one of life’s greatest lessons—  

Only you can save yourself.  

Yes, others will support you. They may help you overcome fear, stress, or trauma. But eventually, you will find yourself alone with your thoughts. In those quiet moments, life teaches you that your greatest strength is you.  

Instead of learning this lesson, many of us crumble. We overthink, feel isolated, and sink deeper into despair instead of finding a way out.  

This leads us to a universal question:  

How do we find greater meaning in our lives?  

Meaning doesn’t come from escaping or seeking a magical version of ourselves. We are born with responsibilities—toward our parents, nature, and the world itself.  

We cannot ignore these duties.  

But we can stop neglecting ourselves.  

From the 24 hours you have each day, set aside at least one hour just for you.  

Nourish your mind.  

Celebrate your small victories.  

Do what brings you joy.  

Each person is born with something unique—a talent, a spark, a calling. Sadly, 99% of people never even try to find out what theirs is.  

In the book "Who Will Cry When You Die?", Robin Sharma discusses your calling—the voice of your heart that guides you toward your purpose.  

Discover that calling.  

Pursue it.  

Do something for yourself.  

Live with positivity and purpose so that you leave a mark—not just in others’ minds but also in their hearts. We may forget those who occupy our thoughts, but we will never forget those who dwell in our hearts.