Acceptance
"Acceptance" is a very small word with the deepest meaning. If someone understands it, the whole way of living life would change.
You know the main reason why we have lost our inner spark nowadays? Because we expect a lot. We want to be the controller of things which are not even in our hands, and this always results in disappointments and heartbreaks.
Start learning to accept things. It’s not every time needed to fight back for what you have imagined or how you think it will go. Life is totally unpredictable; not everything can be according to our wish.
Why We Need to Accept Things
As in my older blog, I had stated "to not complicate life."
To achieve that, first of all we should learn how to start accepting.
To learn the art of acceptance, first we should know how to figure out things which are not under our control and which are. Because I think we should accept only those things which are not in our hands; otherwise accepting everything that could be changed by our efforts would be equal to the biggest defeat of us.
We can understand it by a very famous statement:
"It's not your fault that you were born poor, but if you die poor, it's your fault."
It's true—getting birth in a poor family was not in our hands, but it’s our choice whether we want to change that by our hard work or not.
So like this, we should learn to figure out things which are in our hands, which can be changed, and which can't.
Acceptance in Different Situations
Acceptance can be applied in various parts of our life differently.
Sometimes we have to accept and let someone go who’s not meant for us.
Sometimes we have to accept and stay.
Sometimes we have to accept our loved one’s death.
Sometimes we have to accept our defeat to prepare more.
What Life Taught Me
I am saying all these because life has taught me.
From my childhood since now mostly i had felt that some of my friends whom I assumed as my closest one had a completely different way of reciprocating, but I was unable to understand that. Mostly I used to overthink for what I had done for them and how they reciprocated, which never returned the same way as I did.
We all do this kind of mistake—thinking relations as a business of efforts and priorities. This habit of mine was slowly hollowed my bonds.
I used to argue to let them know how I felt, but indirectly I wanted them to treat me the way I wanted, not the way they wanted. It felt like I forced them to do so, whereas friendship is a feeling, not a business of efforts. In friendship, we do that much which comes from our heart, not our mind.
Once I realized all this, I felt how dumb was I. After the day of realization and acceptance, I had seen my friendship getting stronger you can take it as a kind of maturity for accepting the people for how they are , as my own expectations were the main cause of all the problems.
It’s not necessary that the person I consider a very good friend also considers me the same. We can't force someone to treat us the same way we treat them.
So sometimes we have to accept such things and stay.
But if staying is hurting you and you feel like a bondage in the relation, it means you have to accept that it’s not mandatory that the person you want also wants you.
So you have to let them go. Those who are not meant for you will leave, and the right one will definitely come into your life when he is meant to enter your life by fate.
Accepting Yourself
The most important teaching of acceptance is that first of all you should accept yourself with all your qualities and flaws. Love yourself and try to bring improvements in yourself.
I am saying this because every person around us has a different mindset. Everyone has a different way to see this world and different perspectives towards you:
For someone you are good, for someone you are bad.
For someone you are smart, for someone you are dumb.
For someone you are good-looking, for someone ugly.
For someone you are kind, for someone you are harsh.
We can't change everyone’s perspective towards us. The thing that matters is how we feel about ourselves and how we accept ourselves.
We mostly lack in accepting ourselves the way we are and start hating ourselves. Don’t be a hater of yourself—be a lover and start bringing improvements.
The Magic of Acceptance
Start accepting and leave such things on their condition which can't be changed. Start believing in the game of GOD and I guarantee you, once you start learning the art of acceptance, you will see magic in your life.
Learn to accept things. Useless stress and overthinking will stop, your health will improve, and everything will start falling into place.
“Acceptance is not giving up—it is choosing peace over unnecessary battles.”
